Have you ever felt so left out that at time you felt bad about being yourself? Does being yourself and doing what you love make you any different from others. May it be in primary school, High school, University, a party, a get-together or any other place or situation, made you so sad! Don't know what is the actual reason behind it. Wonder why people could be so mean at times though you didn't do anything wrong to them, but they still find the need to talk behind your back, laugh at how you are or how you dress.
This really discomforts me at times. I usually don't give an eff about what people think about me as long as i know what am worth of. In high school there were lots of backstabbers and fake friends or even at home with your dear relatives. They did talk bad about me, but the thing is that i never cared about what they said. I never felt the need that i should be part of a peer group just to stay in the lime light; you want to talk to me or not, well..that's you choice, but don't ever expect me to change myself for the sake to please fakers. I am what i am! Deal with it. Am kinda strong person. Yeah, but at times you do feel bad somewhere because deep inside you ask yourself what's so wrong about you. But with the course of time, I've realized that despite not having many friends, walking alone all by myself to the canteen or even in tuition, what happened happened for a good reason, at least that's what made me strong and made me know myself more. That did made me independent, though to many i may appear shy, indecisive, but i know what am doing. I'am well grounded. You might find others crying or appear desperate just because they don't have friends or whatsoever. Ironically, the main reason i found why these guys could be so mean was that you never faked it as they did; all the time you did remained yourself without caring about how others would feel, may it be the way you look or dress, And mostly you don't need them. I've always wondered if i was the only one feeling like that.
Well...finally after watching you-tubers like iisuperwomanii and others, even through the people that responded to their videos or mostly by the Internet People, i found that am not the only one in this situation and many of them are dealing with this so nicely like a pro and are real achievers!-- I wonder where are all the haters and mean guys!!
The best friends you'll ever have is your parents, your siblings, God! And that's what many of us don't seem to realize. They are the ones who will guide you and protect you. Being in worst situations would make you realize who are those who are really worth being called your friends. And am happy to finally being able to distinguish between fakers and real ones, and i know that my friends won't ever let me down because those past experiences made a positive growth out of me. Am happy about being myself no matter what anybody says. Life is about up and downs. All matter of how you deal with them; either you get drown with those sad moments or turn it into a positive personal growth. Everything starts with you! Be confident and trust yourself :)
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It's good to lay it down on the line sometimes! :) Individuality is what peaks people and protudes you out of common human beings. Daring enough or being and outright authentic life gets you more at all times :) Gnarling yourself with pessimism or optimism is not the point, you should see situations as they are, and tread accordingly.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how much happiness is being thrown at your feet, if you don't have the right atmosphere created within you, it does not upheave you in any way ;) Continue working on yourself and exploring what you are, and it will leave you unwavering and upright! :) Life is a journey where risks are to be taken, without being overly attached to things and enjoy the sheer slice of what it has to give to you :) The mind is always in a clutter and chattering all about; sit back and the animosity of what it is will not deter you ,because, ultimately people do not have the ability to influence you in any way, it is your lack of impartiality that will push you into assuming what is not there ! :) Only those who are confident and utterly relaxed in their aloneness, can savour the joy of being with others :) Trust nature and it will give it back to you in ways you will not think of :) The quintessential beauty of being yourself is not at the disposal of anyone, moral obligations and compulsive beings needed for society make your mind its garbage bin. Standing out demands just a clear and non-judgemental understanding that you are unique and beyond standards :)
I'm glad to hear that you are willing enough to stand and peek into the realm of what you can make yourself into ;) You are pulling some strings in my mind too :) I'm usually untouched, but you're stories are shining on their own..xoxo <3
You made your points and thoughts very clear, and it's true. Everything depends on how we deal with these situations without getting influenced :)
DeleteStanding out of the crowd that's what makes you unique, and i feel that the world needs more genuine people right now. Spread your thoughts with your hard work.
It feels great to know that this post touched you ;)
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Anytime :)
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Life is awesome with simple living and broad thinking. Remember without darkness you would not have valued brightness. Likewise, without fake people you would not have valued the most sincere person you ever encountered. What you just expressed is a way to open the door to solutions instead of arguments. Never focus on what is erroneous in you, but focus on things that you can make right. No matter how the situations are, these will shape you uniquely and prepare you to strive if you learn something new out of them. Now close your eyes, imagine every moment (good and bad) of your life, every person who came into your life, every situation you were in, every wish you gave or were given, every advice, every opportunity you have or had, every mistake, every right/wrong you did to someone or animals or plants, and every moment you want yourself in. From an optimistic point of view, you will realize how these have made you today than how you would have become. So bless them all coz you don’t know they may be fighting with themselves. Ignore them, but remember if they are talking behind your back means that you have made an impact on their lives, which they are trying to improve or deteriorate. Feel bless! Feel bless if someone is laughing at your simplicity, just know that in this hectic life everyone is living a stressful lifestyle, and that you are the reason behind their smile. Mock at your own flaws first so that you can feel lighter when people do that! Be who you are and not what someone wants you to be! Just listen to your conscience! Everything needs a start, give yourself a start and never be judgmental.
ReplyDeleteI don't know nor i can say how blessed i am to have a friend like you :)
DeleteYou're among the people that inspires me, a great friend with whom i can share my problems and yess...you understand me so well...and got the answers too :)
Thank you soo much ... my life would be dull without a friend like you....Truly...a friend in need is a friend indeed...
I'll strive hard, not for me, but for my parents, my family, my friends who made the best out of me...and mostly YOU :')
Feeling blissful :) xx